Yup. My time has come. The big 4-0. Everyone tells me it only gets better from here. Well, then, Iâm pretty darn lucky because for all its ups and downs, my first 40 have been pretty amazing. Iâve had the opportunity to travel all over the world, see and experience things only a handful do. From Thailand to Nicaragua to where I am celebrating now â Mexico. From safaris to surfing. Broken hearts, but luckily never a broken bone. I had a few thoughts on turning 40, but to be honest, I havenât done a whole lot of contemplating on the subject. Itâs another year like any other. And I truly feel I am where I am supposed to be. (Right now, thatâs enjoying a margarita with three of the best girlfriends I could ever ask for). While Iâm certainly not stress-free, I do stress less. And enjoy more.
Thought Iâd share my contemplations, straight from my journal entry from the morning of â
Wow. 40 years. Of pretty cool living and Iâm only halfway there â at least. My wish for myself? To come into and go through the next decades of my life with grace, abundance, more love â to keep cracking open to uncover the light and see my true nature. To connect to that more and more. And speak, walk, and act from that authentic space. To fear less. To enjoy more. God willing â to stay healthy and strong and adapt as needed. To embrace those I love more fully and not worry so much about the ones who donât love â or even like â me. Worry less. Smile more. Even when I may not want to. Think less, do more. But do less too. So maybe not âdo.â Actually, be OK with NOT doing all the time. BE more. Thatâs better. Be OK with just being here. In one place. Being happy and healthy because there really is no greater gift. You are loved. And supported. You are blessed with so much. And you are love. Be honest. With yourself and with others. Authentic. Speaking your mind does not make you a bitch. But know now, that you will make mistakes. Apologize. And so will others. So forgive. Celebrate successes because you deserve them. And embrace and then release sorrow. Help others even it itâs just by being kinder to them. And forever be grateful that you were brought into this world for a reason. To live with purpose. And grateful to the two people that supported your gift of life â Mom and Dad. Now go forth and enter the next 40-plus years with all of this.ÂThu, April 24, 2014 (No Comments)
Marathons are running races that cover a total of 26.2 miles. For many this distance seems rather odd since it not an even number. This distance is the length of a fabled run that occurred in Ancient Greece during the Battle of Marathon, hence the name. Since its inception, the marathon has evolved over the years and today, there are many marathons which you can run that go beyond the scope of the traditional marathon. These so-called crazy marathons provide a unique experience for runners across the globe.
One of the most grueling marathons is in northern China. Here, the Great Wall Marathon provides an additional challenge beyond simple running. Runners in this demanding race climb a total of 5,164 steps along the Great Wall. However, they do this not just once but twice and for some runners, they may wish to run the 5 km or 10 km race. There is also a half marathon option.ÂŹÂŹ
One crazy marathon is relatively new. The HydroWorx Underwater Marathon takes place annually in Hershey, Pennsylvania. The race occurs entirely in the water which can help lessen the impact on oneâs body. After all, working out in water helps reduce body weight due to the buoyancy of the water. About 80% of your body weight cannot be felt in the water which makes this the ideal marathon for literally anyway even if they donât run on land. The race raises money to help provide improved care for wounded American soldiers.
Another interesting marathon is the Rock ânâ Roll Marathon which occurs in Las Vegas. Youâre more likely to have heard of due to its casinos than its athletic events, though there has been an increase in various other forms of entertainment over recent years due to the competition posed by online casinos like www.jackpotcity.org. The race is one of the oldest marathons in the United States. It first took place in 1967 and has occurred every year since. The course has changed numerous times over the years and the current course was first run in 2009.Fri, March 7, 2014 (No Comments)
I love lists. You should see my desk and purse. Tons of lists. Especially Top Ten lists. If I don’t have ten things to do in a day, I make shit up, like “Breathe” Â just so I can cross it off. Actually, being reminded to take deep breaths isn’t such a bad idea, especially this time of year, so add it to the list! Now it’s on to your Christmas gift list. Stuck? Well, without further ado, I give you my top ten Christmas gifts for 2013. All in good health! Ho Ho Healthy!
Â 1. For the Fitness Fashionista: I’m loving this new dance look from Lorna Jane! Especially the back detail. (I did my best to get the rear view! Bonus if you can tell me what the back of the pants says!) Check out all their cool apparelÂ here.Â
2. For the Healthy Chef : There are so many wonderful recipes in this new Move Over Sugar cookbookÂ (FREE) available online! I found many similar to the ones on my site. Simple, unprocessed, clean and 100% yummy! Â Iâm can’t wait to try all of them, but being the breakfast gal that I am, I wanted to share a morning fave! Plus, who doesnât love chocolate for breakfast??? Â
VEGAN SUPERFOOD PANCAKES
1 cup almond milk (or other non-dairy milk) Â Â
Â˝ cup buckwheat flour
1/3 cup dates, pitted and chopped
1-2 tbsp. raw cacao powder
1 tsp. vanilla powder
1 tsp. maca powder
1 tsp. mesquite powder
Â˝ tsp. baking powder
whipped coconut cream
(or add what you like!)
Blend ingredients together until smooth and combined. Add a splash more almond milk if needed for consistency. Cook a couple of tablespoons of batter in coconut oil in a pan over medium heat.
Stack pancakes and top with whipped coconut cream, strawberries, maple syrup and cacao nibs.
Eat em up!
3. For the Gadget Guy: Nautilus Bowflex Boost.Â Â ($49.95)
Worn as a bracelet, this 24 hour activity tracking device offers all the bells and whistles for a fraction of the cost of some other wrist monitors. Plus, I personally like the sleek design. Stay motivated to get moving! Another great reliable product from Bowflex.Â
4. For the Yogi Who Has Everything: Personalized Mala Beads. ($205) You know the yogi – has the best mat, the coolestwater bottle, an eco friendly towel, enough lululemon to last a lifetime, and even cute hairties. What else do you get them? Why bespoke malas, of course! Shakti MalasÂ are custom designed malas,Â intuitively created for the enhancement of spiritual practice and prescriptive for each individual. Tracee Stanley, yoga goddess, and Karen Rinzler, gifted artisan, will guide you through the process including an initial consultation Â to ensure your malas are truly one of a kind! Normally, these special pieces are $225 but Shakti Malas are offering them for $205 for livWhole customers only! Please emailÂ SSMALAS@ICLOUD.COM to order yours and set up your consultation!!!Â
5. For the Scent SaavyÂ : Please ladies – enough with the processed, fake, marketing laden perfumes. I can’t tell you how many times I get sick, especially over the holidays, from phony scents. You don’t smell like a flower. You smell like a teenager who idolizes Britney Spears. Try a natural essential oil instead. You can keep it simple with relaxing lavender, or sweeten things up a bit with a vanilla based scent. (Studies show many men love the sweet stuff.) The bonus? Depending on what scent you choose, essential oils can also affect your mood, whether you need to relax or revitalize! Dab a little behind your ears and on your wrists. And remember, no one wants to smell you coming a mile away. Someone should maybe get a whiff as you breeze by or if they are whispering sweet nothings in your ear! A perfect stocking stuffer available at natural product stores such as Whole FoodsÂ or most yoga studios carry nice lines.
6. For the Tea Junkie: Individual tea travelers by Libre Tea.($20.40) A dear friend of mine gave me one these as a gift, and I’m sick now that I realize I must have lost it!!! It’s a perfect way to brew loose leaf tea on the go and keep it warm for hours! For an at home individual tea experience,Â a simple mesh infuser is a great option and should fit into any mug . I love to grate fresh ginger and turmeric into mine. Pour hot water over and let steep for 5 minutes. Remove filter, add honey and drink up the anti inflammatory, anti viral goodness! And now you know what you can get me!
7. For the Home Asana Junkie: Manduka PRO Squared mat. ($360)Â Because one rectangle just aint’ big enough! Yoga- better than a game of Twister!Â
8. For the Facial Junkie: LifeLine skincare products.Â ($350)Â For the person that needs the newest technology and research for their facial products, you can’t beat LifeLine products. Applying the latest in stem cell research to your skin, LifeLine products will turn back the clock in mere months. And I know. I use it. Seriously. Click here to save 10% on your orderÂ through the livWhole storeÂ using the code HOLIDAY at checkout!Â
9. For the Massage Junkie: Yoga Tune Up Balls.Â ($12.95)Â Something else I use. Every. Day. Seriously. Jill Miller (or as I like to fondly refer to her as the “body dork”!) has created a simple to use, affordable solution for pain and tight anything! Give someone you know with a tight ass (literally) these and watch the tension melt away and range of motion return. Nothing says I love you like a fluffy butt! Plus, much cheaper than a daily masseuse!Â Â You can also find these in the livWhole store and save 10% on your total order by using the code HOLIDAY at checkout!
10. For the Eco Freak: Thinksport!Â eco friendly athletic and baby products! Perfect for the active eco conscious member of your family, even your kids! From baby bottles to sunscreen, Thinksport! has got you covered. Â Not only will you be caring for yourself and those you love, but the planet as well. Spread the joy!
Okay, fine, I’ll include my DVDs!!! You can also find them in my store here!Â Remember, 10% off your total order using the code HOLIDAY! ÂWed, December 4, 2013 (No Comments)
Many of us try to eat healthy. But with all the fads, trends, diets, new products and claims, itâs no wonder people wanting to make a change are left saying, âHuh?â
Itâs difficult to know whatâs honest and whatâs hype. I took an informal survey on Facebook and came up with five topics of confusion.
Let the truth be told.
CULPRITS:Â Activia, Yoplait and Stonyfield.
CLAIMS:Â Many yogurts now make special probiotic formulas for a healthy gut.
TRUTH:Â Yes, probiotics are wonderful to maintain healthy flora in the gut; however, most of the brands above contain an ungodly amount of sugar that negates any positive effects in your gut. Sugar can cause bloating and a whole host of other digestive problems. Plus, ANY good quality yogurt contains probiotics. Donât fall for the gimmick.
BETTER CHOICE:Â Stick to PLAIN flavors (even those have natural occurring sugars found in dairy products), and if you have sensitivity to dairy, try a goat or sheep milk yogurt thatâs Â lower in lactose, Or my favorite, theÂ lactose-free variety from Green Valley.
CULPRITS:Â Any and all cereals, breads and crackers with this label
CLAIMS:Â Products now made with whole grains are more nutritious than their predecessors.
TRUTH:Â This is probably the most egregious assault on American health since the Big Mac. Big food companies have convinced people that their cereals are now healthier because of this new whole grain label. It occurred to me how bad it was when I recently was on vacation and one of my friendsâa very intelligent, fairly well-off, grown manâsaid, âYeah, Iâll only buy the whole grain cereals now. Theyâre all going that way.â I didnât have the heart to correct him because he truly thought he was making a healthier choice for himself and his family (plus it was 6:30 a.m. and I was on vacation). Hereâs the thing: processed food is processed food. The whole grains are still processed to the point of nil nutritional value. Okay, maybe they add a gram or two of fiber, but the first or second ingredient is usually some form of sugar.
BETTER CHOICE:Â Stick to oatmeal, brown rice, quinoa or other grains in the morning. You can doctor it up with a ton of healthier options such as fruit, flaxseed, and natural sweeteners. Tastes good, good for you, no label required.
And while weâre on the topic of grainsâŚ
CULPRITS:Â Everything in the supermarket these days.
CLAIMS:Â Eating gluten free is the solution to any and all of lifeâs problems.
TRUTH:Â Poor wheat. Itâs gotten such a bad reputation. First the no carb trend then Paleo and now this. Truth is, wheat is not the devil. Itâs the processed part that does you no good. Gluten-free foods can still be extremely processed and full of sugar, salt and artificial ingredients. Gluten-free does not mean good for you. If a gluten free lifestyle leads someone down the path of more whole grains, simpler ingredients and more educated food decisions, kudos! However, more often than not, I see this label being used by people anxious to conform to the latest fad. Maybe youâve heard a similar version of this conversation?
Trendy Eater #1: âOh, I canât have that amazing homemade French bread with butter on it while Iâm on vacation in Paris. Iâm gluten-free.â
Waiter: âMademoiselle, would you like a pint of our gluten free double chocolate gelato, topped with gluten free Oreos and gluten free whipped cream?â
Trendy Eater #1: âSURE!â
This isnât to say there is no place for gluten free treats. Many people are diagnosed with a very serious condition called Celiac disease, cause of a whole host of serious health problems. By golly, these people deserve some cake too. But, by and large, letâs not use it as an excuse to indulge in more garbage with a different label.
LOW OR NO FAT
CULPRITS:Â Milk products, salad dressings, bread, cereals.
CLAIMS:Â Eating less fat is better for you and will help you be skinny.
TRUTH:Â I was tempted not to add this to the list because I was convinced this trend went out with the âLetâs Get Physicalâ headbands and step aerobics. Apparently, I was wrong. Many are still confused and duped by this label. Say it with me: âTHERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH FAT.â There is something wrong with hydrogenated oils and margarine or other butter-like products made out of plastic that your body has no clue how to digest. Or replacing fat with sugar in an attempt to make up for the loss of taste. Salad dressings are a huge culprit of this. Avocados, olive oil, coconut oil, flax oil, nuts, seeds? Go for it. Even eggs, if you donât have more than a couple a week. Stop counting numbers. Start eating less processed foods. Your body will thank you.
NO ADDED SUGAR, LOW SUGAR OR NO SUGAR
CULPRITS:Â Juices, diet soda, cereal, bread, protein/nutrition bars, protein powders.
CLAIMS:Â Less calories and, therefore, better for you â sending you to skinny land!
TRUTH:Â So it may seem I am contradicting myself here, as I basically expose sugar as the devil in every example above. But hereâs the deal, like Marvin Gaye says, âAinât nothing like the real thing, baby.â If youâre going to have a Coke, go for it. But donât make it a habit. Donât kid yourself by thinking youâre doing better by having 5 DIET cokes a day instead of regular ones. Yes, you may save yourself hundreds of empty calories and a serious case of Type 2 Diabetes, but youâve replaced one bad habit with another. And thatâs just no good. These products usually contain artificial sweeteners likened to Aspartame, Sucralose, and everyoneâs favorite Saccharine!
Remember TAB? The fake it âtil you make it approach does not apply here. The best rule of thumb when it comes to sugar products? Moderation. Use a teaspoon of primo maple syrup, honey or agave nectar. Or try Stevia, a natural sugar substitute. Although admittedly, there are conflicting claims on this product too. Bottom line: No one likes a fake.
On that note, weâre not saints. Notice the use of the word we. I have a real honest to goodness Coke in a bottle sitting in my fridge right now. Made with REAL sugar and not corn syrup! And Iâve been known to down a diet Dr. Brownâs Cream or Black Cherry soda a couple of times a year. As a matter of fact, I had one last night. However, these are not habits, and I donât pretend Iâm doing something good for me because that soda was fat, sugar, calorie, and gluten-free.
Make educated decisions. Read ingredient labels, not marketing claims. Education is key. Knowledge is power. Donât buy into the gimmicks and the advertising schemes.
My new website atÂ http://www.livwhole.comÂ features easy and tasty recipes that avoid these common pitfalls! Sign up for mynewsletter hereÂ so you can keep abreast of the latest updates! Got a question? Hit me up atÂ firstname.lastname@example.org.Wed, November 20, 2013 (No Comments)
With the current economic situation, most of us hardly have time for ourselves, let alone for family. Most of us are trying hard to make ends meet that we forget to create time to just unwind. Work without play is unhealthy in more ways than one. If you are always working, then you are likely to get fatigued which leads to depression. When depression kicks in, even the job that you are most passionate about becomes stressful. This is why it is important that you find a balance between work and life.
Balance in life is all about taking care of yourself by taking some time off of work, eating healthy, regularly exercising and pampering yourself once in a while. Even with the busiest of lifestyles, you can still create some "you" time each day or week and improve your lifestyle.
There are many ways you can create a balance between work and life. It all starts by creating time within your busy lifestyle. If you are always juggling work and taking care of your family, maybe its time you searched for additional help. Consider hiring someone to take care of the cooking and cleaning or teach other members of your family to help around the house. Make it known to other people living with you that your work takes its toll on you and some help would do you a whole lot of good. This way, you will have some time to relax after a busy day of work and have some time for yourself.
You'll also need to learn to say 'no' more often. Some of us are too generous and will put the needs of others ahead of ours. While thinking of others is a good thing, allowing others to take advantage of your generosity is unhealthy. At some point, you'll need to turn down those annoying invitations to different functions and even new business deals and take some time off.
Most people over-commit in order to look busy, be popular and to be seen as indispensable. This often weighs down on them and it will only be a matter of time before they break down. To avoid this, determine what is good for you and you only. if you are stuck in a career that you hate, it is definitely time to start working on switching to something you are passionate about and something that gives you more freedom to spend time with your family or simply unwind on your own. Take a vacation once in a while and do something you like.
If visiting a casino and laying some money on the table feels good to you, then do just that. Nowadays, you don't even necessarily have to go to a casino in order to place wagers on your favorite game. With Royal Vegas online casino games, you can actually take part in different games from the comfort of your home or office using your computer or mobile device. Note that sometimes, for you to be happy, you need to put yourself first before anything else. After all, you won't be able to perform well when you are depressed or fatigued.Wed, October 16, 2013 (No Comments)
I recently moved into a new apartment and realized all my âjunkâ moved with me. Iâve spent the past two weeks tossing old papers, photos, pens and other things I donât need or even like. Iâm not saying I belong on an episode of âHoardersâ, but Iâve been challenged by many circumstances in my life to simplify as much as possible. With the exception of my bedroom suite, I barely have any furniture. My yoga mat, props and meditation cushion lie in the middle of a fairly empty room, a vintage desk I purchased from Craigslist for $75 beckons me to work and write.
My life is filled with things I adore, need and truly want. And that feels good.
After multiple trips to Goodwill, the recycling bin and the garbage can, I got to thinking about how weighed down I had become with my stuff. Literally. I shipped too many boxes to count from LA and NYC to Austin, only to throw half of it out. Not exactly economical. Now I have space and I can breathe and am determined to maintain a clutter free and unencumbered lifestyle. Here are FIVE rules you can follow to do the same.
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- First things first. Take half (or whole depending on how much âstuffâ you have) a day to clear your space. Categorize it. You can spend one day attacking clothing. Another powering through your office. Rule of thumb for clothing/purses, etc. – if you havenât worn or used it in the past two years, to Goodwill it goes. If itâs couture or cool, you may even earn a buck or two from a vintage store or an online reseller like this one. On to your office. Get rid of half used pens, old receipts, dried out highlighters and magazines from 1999. Organize your bills into file folders. Even better jump to #2.
- If you are computer savvy, take all your bills online. Subscribing to e-payments is an easy way to keep your physical mailbox free of clutter and to systematically organize your bills in one place – your virtual mailbox, aka, e-mail. I keep a document with all my usernames and passwords or use a little notebook in your office to keep all of them straight.
- Remember the 3 Râs. Reduce Reuse Recycle. (If you need a handy jingle to help remind you, listen here.) Iâve started reusing my plastic baggies if they are not totally mangled. Turn them inside out, rinse (another R!) and dry. (REUSE!) The grocery stores where I live imposed a ban on single use paper and plastic bags. If you happen to show up without your own, you buy one. Keep it in your car for subsequent visits. Iâm not for telling people what to do, but I am for nudging people in the right direction toward healthy change. Donât wait for a ban. Trust me, itâs a wonderful feeling to not have 800 grocery bags folded and jammed in the space between the fridge and the kitchen wall. (REDUCE!) If you are lucky enough to live in a city with grocery stores that sell in bulk, itâs always a great way to go. Spices, teas, sugars, granola, nuts, seeds, grains, even olive oil and vinegar in my local Whole Foods markets and Co-op! The list has become endless. Sure, buying bulk does require some sort of plastic vessel but you know what you can do with those. (REUSE!)
When push comes to shove, move to the last âRâ. Recycle. If your city doesnât provide recycling bins, you can find a local recycling center here. This site is a great resource as it will not only provide centers that recycle the basics like plastic,paper, etc. but also other junk you can get rid of . . . like this cell phone.
- I refuse to buy any more shampoo, toothpaste, conditioner, soap, scrubs, facial wash, lotion and other bathroom accoutrements until I am completely done with what is currently in my cabinet and shower right now. This includes sample sizes from the various hotels, spas and resorts Iâve visited in the past ten years. If itâs half full, I tossed it (into the recycling bin of course). Iâll never miss that quarter sized lotion of Aveda lotion. No matter how expensive it is on the retail shelf. You donât need five different shampoos, no matter what the commercials say or what your hair type. Use it or lose it.
- Now that youâve cleared some space, STOP before you shop. Seriously. Next time you go shopping, whether for food, clothing, (luckily I donât enjoy this activity too much) or just âstuffâ, be present. Before you throw another thing in your cart, real or virtual, take pause. Take a deep breath and close your eyes. Count backwards from ten on every exhale. Then open your eyes and see if the initial urge to spend still exists. We all know what itâs like to go into Target to buy one thing and come out with 100. It happens. Use this trick, come out with 10, and youâve hit a home run.Â
A dear friend and fellow yogi, Ben McLellan recently posted this comment on his Facebook page:Â This is astonishing to me…..we will take a drug that may cause internal bleeding, stroke, heart attack, and possibly death to sleep better. We won’t practice yoga, chi gong, or tai chi because we don’t have time, it’s too expensive, or it’s weird. Dumb is an understatement.
I share these sentiments and have become increasingly frustrated with the excuses people give that prevent them from embarking on a routine that will lead to greater health, healing and ultimately, happiness. Despite my sincerest efforts to be patient and accept that everyone is on their own unique path, so often I have the desire to call out âBullshit!â in the middle of a sentence. Not exactly polite, I know. Â
I think what pisses me off most is the lack of personal responsibility. (I’m obviously pretty fired up on this topic lately. Just ask some of my poor friends who have to listen to me.) If I had a quarter for the number of times I have heard the words âCANâTâ and âDONâTâ, I wouldn’t be writing my own blogs anymore (Just kidding! I’ll always write my own stuff. Promise. )
âI CANâT meditate. I CANâT turn off my brainâ. To which Iâll retort, âWho the fuck can?â
Or âI DONâT have the time.â Oh please. I know how much time I spend on Facebook. And I still manage to do a meditation practice.
Or my favorite âI CANâT do yoga. Iâm not flexible.âÂ
AGHHHHH. Please. Just. Stop.
Be honest. With me. With yourself. We all have nothing but time. Itâs up to you how you spend it. And where you spend it. I am FINE if you donât WANT to do yoga, Tai Chi, meditate, lift weights or eat broccoli. That is your prerogative.
ABSOLUTELY, without a doubt, it is challenging to make these practices a habit. They require more effort, more work and more discipline. However, they also ultimately make you a healthier, happier, more productive, balanced and evolved human being. Ask the thousands of people who do such things. But please, stop with the excuses. You have choices. Take responsibility for those you continue to make, and realize youâre life is what it is today because of them. As Jean Paul Sarte so simply states: âYou are your choices.â
Choose wisely. And stop telling me you âcanâtâ.
For a list of some of the most hysterical excuses some of my trainer friends have gotten, please read this. If you recognize yourself, youâve been publically outed! http://espn.go.com/espnw/athletes-life/9104429/espnwtrainers-share-worst-excuses-national-athletic-training-month
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While I havenât taken many yoga classes in the past year, preferring to stay at home to cultivate a personal practice, I recently have returned to the group setting in my new hometown to get to know the community. Classes are the first place Iâll go to meet like-minded people when I land on unfamiliar territory. But it reminds me of why I often stay home.
The routine is the same. I begin by checking out some studios online and then look for instructors I think I may enjoy based on class descriptions and bios. Words such as âupliftingâ, âintelligent flow,â and âleaving students feeling centered and blissfulâ often make their way into the picture. âAll levels welcomeâ is one I tend to see a lot as well.
However, what I typically experience is a rote reproduction of a vinyasa class with too many chattarangas for my taste and no clear purpose or aim. It seems like the latest generation of teachers are all reading from the same script. Yes, some have different jokes and others are slightly more entertaining, but rarely have I experienced a true âsattvicâ state at the end of the journey. Light. Clear. Steady and balanced.
The intention of this blog is not to blast every teacher Iâve come across nor to criticize every class Iâve taken. Because truth of the matter is there are a lot of good teachers out there.
However, it does seem like we are pumping out yoga teachers like BigMacs. It seems to have become the âjob du jourâ as more and more people begin to dip their toes in the waters of yoga, creating an ocean of demand. Get laid off? Become a yoga teacher. Looking to balance your 9-5 job? Start teaching yoga on the side. Bored? Eh, may as well sign up for a 200 hour RYT.
And just like fast food, quality declines as mass production increases.
Iâm all for learning the traditions, the ancient teachings, the intricate, detailed and sacred practices of an entire yoga system to help more people find joy and happiness in their lives. However, it seems like little more is being taught than where to put your foot in Warrior I and how to perform Ujjayi, if that.Â
There are a couple of oft-repeated directions I hear to which I say âHuh?â Here are some my favorites.
1. âLift your head/chinâ or its stepsister âLook upâ. I donât have an issue with taking your gaze to the hands or in the âupward direction.â However, most students interpret this into cranking their head back until their chin is in the vertical position, slightly resembling the unnatural range of motion of a Muppet. Unfortunately, this does not improve your backbend or get you any closer to divine spirit.
2. âToday weâre going to focus on âheart openersââ. I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but no amount of arching your back or pushing your ribcage out while scrunching your shoulders into your ears is going to help you feel âmore love.â Backbends, when practiced properly are wonderful to move energy in an upward direction, however, it is through thoughtful application of the breath that we begin to see shifts in our actual mind and emotional states. The best way to âopen your heartâ? Meditation and surrender. Take your practice off the mat and into your daily life.Â
3. Iâve witnessed many teachers tell students their breath should sound like âDarth Vaderâ or âbe audible to your fellow yogisâ. Ummmmm, no thank you. I for one donât want to hear your Star Wars like breathing. From “Krishnamacharya: His Life and Teachings” âTo regulate the breath during the practice of asanas, the technique of ujjayi breathing is important. In ujjayi breathing you constrict your vocal cords slightly as you breathe so that you can feel the air as it flows past. A slight hissing sound often resultsâthe more you constrict your throat and force your breath, the louder the sound. Conversely, the more finely you control your breath, the softer the sound. The goal is not to create a lot of sound but rather less sound. With practice and greater control, you should be able to breathe slowly and very smoothly. Then the sound will diminish and you can direct your attention to a more subtle indicator: the internal sensation of your breath flowing. Krishnamacharya used to give the standard instruction, âFeel rubbing sensation in throat.ââ (PS: Thanks for posting this Ben! A perfect quote to support my point.)
4. âTake a deep inhale in . . . and now SIIIIGGGHHHH out the mouth.â Iâll admit, this used to be me. I would love to make indescribable sounds during class and feel as if it was some huge release. Now, the symphonic collection of âohhhhhhsssssâ and âaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhsâ drives me nuts. The concept of releasing all that energy seems counterintuitive to one of the primary goals of yoga, at least in the Tantric tradition: to contain and concentrate prana (energy) and direct it for a desired energetic effect. I understand the aim is to encourage students to release and âlet goâ, but there are so many other intelligent techniques a teacher can utilize to achieve this end. Letâs start using them.
Conversely, much of my frustration comes from what teachers ARENâT teaching in their classes. Here are just a few:
1. How to breathe. Yes, often instructors will speak of the importance of the breath at the onset of class but never revisit the concept as students gasp, grunt and âAggghhâ in their attempts to get their leg higher or their face to their knees. Â I hate to repeat what’s been said so many times, but without the breath, it’s not yoga. It’s a stretch class.Â
2. Often, when I read teachersâ bios, everyone seems to have studied with world renowned teachers and highly respected gurus. Yet, why are they not teaching to what I assume theyâve learned . . . The subtle body, the energetic body? Why aren’t we giving students the space and time to sit in stillness after asanas (and not just savasana) to tune into the presence and feeling of energy shifts? And consequently, the results that ensue from a very predetermined, directed sequence of asanas? How the poses influence not only our body, but our minds and emotions. If we continue to gloss over this just because our students want a hot body, we are doing them a great disservice.
3. What Iâve been experiencing lately is a lack of clear direction or aim in classes. I recently attended one where the instructor said, with genuine surprise, âWow. It seems like this is turning into a backbend practice!â Needless to say I raise an eyebrow (or two since I am not that skilled in the unibrow lift) when there is a lack of clear purpose for a class. You are taking students on a journey. Know the destination.
4. Meditation. Lest we forget the ultimate destination of our practice. To prepare us for meditation. So that we may sit, comfortably, our spine a clear channel of energy. If our teachers are not bringing us to a place of more ease, freedom and joy in our day to day lives, it seems that our efforts are not nearly as effective as they can and should be.
I hear words my teacher has reiterated over and over on a daily basis: âIf itâs not changing your life, itâs not yoga.â Yoga is a powerful tool. Letâs start treating it as such.ÂSun, March 10, 2013 (No Comments)
This blog was inspired by a student I had in class the other day who said to me, as I was adjusting her in a pose: âI do better with Vinyasa, not these long holds.â (I took the liberty to paraphrase a bit, but you get the idea.) Thatâs code for: I donât like this because Iâm not comfortable here. She opened Pandoraâs box. The same sentiment seemed to be present itself EVERYWHERE. In my other classes, watching people on the subway, walking down the street. It was all around. How do we avoid discomfort? How can I get away with doing this exercise/job/LIFE with as little aches and uneasiness as possible?
I bore witness to this phenomenon again in my Barre Burn class later that evening. It was clear to me these ladies (Ahem gentlemen . . . if you ever go to the gym to meet women, youâre in the wrong class!) had gotten accustomed to going through the motions. Showing up, knowing what to expect and getting by with the least amount of effort possible. Clearly, there was discomfort (as signaled by the contorted facial expressions and piercing glances in my direction). Moving through movements slowly, activating your muscles rather than relying on momentum will do that to you. (Which, I will argue, is why the women in my earlier yoga class does much better with âVinyasaâ). I somewhat attribute this to the role of teachers more and more often not TEACHING but directing. But thatâs a whole other blog.
Itâs important here to make distinguish between pain and discomfort. Was I in pain when my teacher first took me in and out of chair pose what seemed like 50 times? No. I didnât require an ambulance or paramedic. But you can bet your ass it was uncomfortable. More than uncomfortable. I wanted to scream all sorts of expletives at him and shout âI hate you I hate you I hate you! Are you crazy!?!?â No. He wasnât. I was simply going through something I had not experienced before. That would be fire. In my back, in my thighs, everywhere. I would later come to understand this sensation, this burning intense heat, as the fire of transformation. And itâs necessary for change. Whether you are looking to merely change your body or your looking to change your life. FIRE is necessary. It is the element of change. How do you change the inherent properties of matter? Water wonât do it. Neither will wind. Fire does. And Iâm not referring to the comfy cozy heat you experience from a fireplace in the middle of winter with a cup of hot cocoa. Typically, I envision more of a devil (although I don’t believe in the actual existence of one, just to be clear), too much Icy Hot down your pants, kind of heat.
Why do you think meditation is so difficult for people? Most of us are used to being pulled along by the current, from dawn til dusk and long after, kept awake by the buzz of televisions, iPhones, video games, etc. We do everything to distract ourselves from feeling any sort of discomfort whether it be physical, emotional or mental. Iâve often stepped in to teach a âVinyasaâ class and directed students to stand, close their eyes and simply feel the effects of whatever pose asana, flow, etc. we just completed. You wouldnât believe the amount of fidgeting. People are looking around the room, playing with their nails. . . . Iâve even seen people pick up their phones during this moment of rest. If you canât sit still, close your eyes, look inside, and FEEL for 15 seconds, Iâm telling you. Thereâs a problem.
Which is why, in my opinion many of these popular âVinyasaâ are actually directing students further away from one of the main goals of yoga — change. I donât want to make a sweeping statement that all Vinyasa classes are this way. Iâve been to some wonderful ones that are very mindful. But many can be just as distracting as the buzz of the phone or the mind numbing frivolity of Keeping Up With the Kardashians (Although, I will admit, Iâve succumbed to more than one episode of mind numbing.)
Donât get me wrong . . . there are definitely circumstances when what feels good and easy is SO right. A massage. A good pedicure. A restorative yoga class. Sun on your face. A margarita. (That is purely circumstantial actually, but often times, it’s both so good and so right! ) But as we well know, often times, we slip into what feels good because itâs easier than facing what may be a huge challenge and bring us to a VERY UNCOMFORTABLE place.
Anything worth attaining, whether it be a tight tush or spiritual enlightenment, requires change. And change is again, typically, not comfortable. In fact, it may involve a whole lot of heat. But, as alchemy teaches, whatâs on the other side of that heat could be liquid gold.Thu, November 29, 2012 (No Comments)
For years Iâve feared asking for what I want or speaking up for fear of hurting someoneâs feelings or offending someone. Never is this more true than when I am receiving a haircut, massage, mani/pedi, etc. Too many times Iâve left a massage feeling like I needed a massage. Or silently nodding left speechless with wide eyes when asked âDo you like it?â, walking out of a salon looking like Dorothy Hamil.
Lately, thereâs been a shift. Iâd like to think itâs a result of a more dedicated yoga and meditation practice over the past year that has helped me cultivate more confidence and a stronger sense of self. I donât seem to take things so personally, and conversely, I speak my mind when I have something to say. This may not seem like a huge deal. Many people have NO PROBLEM speaking their mind. But Iâd venture to bet there are quite a few of us, even as mature adults, who do. We donât want to rock the boat. We want people to like us. We fear weâll be considered âbitchesâ. And our fears override our desire to leave with a fantastic haircut.
Recently, my brother sent me an email criticizing a comment I had made on Twitter. Five years ago (hell, who am I kidding? ONE year ago, probably) his words would have sent me reeling, old hurts rearing their ugly head. The 10-year old scolded little sister would assert herself and the tears would flow. And his words would have echoed in my head for days if not weeks. While I initially felt a slight sting, I closed my eyes for a moment, then re-opened them to read the email with clear eyes as opposed to the eyes of that âlittle sister.â And I understand why he sent it. It had nothing to do with me. I responded, but didnât react, asserting my position. The only apology I made was for the way it made him feel.
The other day, I popped into an unknown nail salon for a manicure. When the gentleman began to hack away at my cuticles, I politely asked him to not cut so much. But he continued to trim them to a point I considered excessive. So I repeated my request. As you ladies may know, sometimes meaning gets lost in translation at nail salons. (Iâm glad they donât speak to each other in English. No doubt their comments would ensure Iâd never go back.) Three timeâs a charm apparently, and another nail technician replaced him. And I was fine with that. Iâm sure he was a very nice man. But I left there with my nails perfectly painted and just as I wanted them.
Again, this may not seem like a huge milestone. But for me, it was a hurdle I havenât been able to clear. Normally, I would have left the place with bloody cuticles.
And, feeling the effects of one too many hair whips in dance class, I decided to go to one of the Thai massage joints that litter Ventura Boulevard. Normally, I am very particular about who I go to for body treatments, however, I needed relief, stat. And I knew some of these Thai ladies are no joke. Unfortunately, my therapist was not one of them. For 15 minutes, I was more uncomfortable then when I first lay down. I played it out in my head . . . âGive her another 10 minutes. Maybe sheâs just warming up. It could get better.â And âI canât say anything, Iâm already 15 minutes in.â Then I realized – if I go through with the massage, I canât refuse to pay for dissatisfaction if I didnât speak up. And then Iâd be pissed for throwing money down the drain, feeling no relief and more agitated than when I arrived. At that instant, I stopped her and politely said, âIâm sorry. I think I need someone stronger.â
And in came Nami. Hallelujah. This woman squeezed and kneaded every part of my body that screamed for relief. I could relax and enjoy. I left feeling happily exhausted and appropriately beaten.
Mind you, speaking my mind still doesnât come easily. I often have to stop myself and ask if by failing to express what Iâm thinking, what or who am I really saving? Someoneâs feelings? My happiness? My truth? But by taking pause, and asking myself these questions, no matter what the answer, I find Iâm more authentic in every moment.
Good Thai massage? $50. Speaking my mind? Priceless.Tue, November 6, 2012 (No Comments)